Monday, April 25, 2011

Getting dressed

For a long time now, I've been wearing very basic, boring clothes.  Years of being encouraged to hate my body have made me want to hide it in shapeless baggy clothes.  I'm tired of feeling that way, and have taken baby steps toward wearing prettier, more colorful, fun stuff with personality. However, I know that changing my clothes means getting attention, and not all of it favorable.  I'm trying to reconcile my desire to express myself more via clothes with people who want to embarrass me for having the gall to do something "different".  I don't want to look the same, but at the same time I'm not quite ready to stand out.  I wore a dress for the first time in ages recently and some of the reaction was a bit unsettling.  But I guess that's the price to be paid for being "visible" again.  And I really don't want to spend the rest of my life in a t-shirt, even if it is the awesome "you have died of dysentery" one I found online.


  1. Hope you don't mind my commenting. I came here having read your comment on The Rotund and I just wanted to say Go For It! The thing is that while wearing baggy shapeless clothes sends the message, "don't look at me, I'm fat!" it doesn't actually render one's fat invisible. In fact, I've noticed, when I opt for baggy,( which I sometimes do for choice), I tend to look fatter than I am.

    Haters will notice and visit their hate on a fat person whatever we wear. However if, as you say, you want to dress in a prettier, colourful, more individual sort of way, (all of which are highly positive in my book), I guarantee you, once you settle into your new persona, most of the attention you'll get will be positive.

  2. Thank you for your kind words! That is so true about the haters-haters gonna hate no matter what. What I need to remember is that their sour attitude has more to do with them and their issues than with me.